Kinda serious question

[luvxander]

Ladies and Gentlemen, boys and girls, critters of all ages and sizes....Help me figure something out.

Am I going crazy, or is it normal to stop and check your mother's breathing every time you walk by her when she's asleep?

It's almost an uncontrollable urge. Every single time, I have to stop and watch to make sure she's breathing.

This can't be normal behavior, right?

ETA: We have a detect button for location, our media players can even automatically put in what we're listening to....why can't LJ just detect our mood? Why must I type it in every time?

Comments

[redeem147.livejournal.com]

I can't say I always do it with Mom, but I do it a lot.

[luvxander.livejournal.com]

I've been doing it since high school. I dunno...maybe this is somehow attached to my abandonment issues?

[saifai.livejournal.com]

Depends on what's going on with your Mom. When my Mom got pneumonia, it hit her hard, and I was honestly worried about her continued health. I think sometimes, we just can't help but be worried for our Moms.

[luvxander.livejournal.com]

Well recently, due to her diabetes and her refusal to take good care of herself, she's been diagnosed with congestive heart failure. But this is an ongoing thing from way back in high school. For some reason, it just struck me as strange today, I was like....is this normal?

[saifai.livejournal.com]

I don't blame you a bit. Both my parents have diabetes, but it's my Dad that hadn't taken care of it. Ended up having serious medical conditions as a result. Not sure I honestly cared enough about the man to check his breathing, but I certainly did wonder quite a bit for a time.

I guess it's different for every person, but I'm thinking given the circumstances I'd be doing much the same (at least if it was my mother in that situation).

[luvxander.livejournal.com]

I've had huge abandonment issues ever since I was little and our dad left us. My mom tells me that, for years, every time she would leave the room, I would ask if she were coming back. I guess this is all tied into that, with the not knowing what I'll do if something happens to her?

Which is, of course, why she makes me so mad with the not taking care of herself.

[saifai.livejournal.com]

Aah. Yeah, I can see that. I think if the situation with my Mom and Dad were reversed, I'd be feeling much the same as you. As it is I can't help but wonder what I'd ever do if something happen to my Mom.

Not sure what all you can do there except keep on being there for her. *hugs* I've lost people to diabetes, but nobody so close as a Mom. So I hope your Mom will be able to start taking better care of herself. Moms are important!